// Don’t lose your heart //

I am going through that phase where I and my counterparts have to make this decision of what to do with their lives next? To decide what field they are going to opt, which university, which preparation programs to get into the university etc.

And if you have been through it, you would know what we would hear every day. Stories about people who failed to get into their desired universities, fields etc.

They are portrayed as failures in life. No, I believe not. We all irrespective of our grades and how well we do at the college have to fight this battle called Life. We have just taken a small step into the real world. There is so much that we have to see. There is so much that we have to prove. I have seen the energies already tiring and faces already getting pale with self-doubts.

I know college and grades play a major role in one’s life. You get too many privileges (Believe me! :P). This article is not to discourage anyone with their good performance at college and to encourage the other side. This is targeted to those who are confused and doubting their selves if they will be able to make it to their desired field and their desired university.

First of all, I would say Discard all the self-doubts.

I have seen so many people around me having enough potential but they are too afraid to give a try to something they actually want to do.

Secondly, Listen to no one but yourself.

Only you yourself have to make this decision that what you want to do next. The people around you can help you and guide you but it’s your decision.

Then, Look for the areas where you need to work on.   X Reality Check X

By saying this I mean, nothing is achieved just my believing and listening to yourself. Set your goals in academics right from today. Work hard to achieve them.

Have a plan B and C too.

Make sure you don’t forget to have an alternate. That is how you play safe.

And, Don’t lose heart. 🙂

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Successful Life Redefined


Whats your idea about success?

Money? Fame?

What if you get all of this and still not be satisfied with life?

Jim Carrey said,

“I hope everybody could get rich and famous and will have everything they dreamed of,so they will know that its not the answer.”

Then what is?

What I think is we have wrong ideas of success in our heads.

 Sharing with you and excerpt from my diary:

“I am afraid if I get what I want and still wake up to me sad and wanting some other thing and after getting it, still be sad.I am afraid that I may run after things for my whole life. “

What I think is we should not ONLY make money our goal. I was naive before when I used to think money can buy anything and everything. No, money can only buy you things. I was surprised to see that some people with so much and still they are not able to appreciate it.

And how our adults and parents tell us to choose a career with money. I heard someone say I want to be this because there’s so much money in this field. In the stereotypes, we have forgot the things that bring us happiness and satisfaction.


1) You are happy with what you are doing.

2) Inner satisfaction

3) Everyday you take another step towards positivity.

4) You are a positive influence for those around you.

Dealing with negative emotions

As the quotation goes that life is what you make out of it. There are times when you are faced by difficult situations but how we deal with it matters the most.

I was watching a Ted talk on mental health in which the speaker told the audience to count the rectangles in the picture. There were different answers. Some said 20, some said 50 etc.

There was also a bus in the picture and there were kids sitting inside it. Now the speaker asked if anyone could tell how many kids were sitting in the bus. And no one knew the answer.

Thus, the speaker explained that when our brain focuses on one thing, the rest of the things go blur.

This is related to when our brain focuses on the negative, all the positive things go blur.

Likewise, if you get a worthless feeling because your friend did not call you back. Your brain will not remind you of all the times when he did.

It happens to everyone that you get caught up by a negative thought out of nowhere. And then you end up crying in your bed. But if your negative thoughts are not interrupted, you will definitely end up with emotional distress.




– First of all,I started from keeping a record of how frequently I feel depressed. I used to have a depressed day after every 10 days. Now it has become less frequent, here is how:


1) Whenever there comes a negative thought, practice Mindfulness.

Mindfulness is a psychological process which help with stress reduction.

2) Try to focus on something positive

3) Break the nexus of negative thoughts. Whenever something negative comes in your mind, shrug it off immediately. If you give them further way, it will become difficult for you. Fighting the negative emotions is the key!

Who are you not to be?

I want to share with you guys one of my favourite quote by Marianne Williamson which says that,

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

It is actually bizarre how much we under-estimate ourselves. We look at talented people or the ones who have managed to achieve success after hard work, we think to ourselves that God has gifted them with something special. We reckon that we lack that something special.
But don’t you yourself say that God is the most just. He does justice to his people. Then how some of us are gifted and others are not.
I believe that we all have the capacity to do great. Some people fail to realize it and those who do reach to great heights.
Yes, we don’t have same circumstances. Some of us have really difficult circumstances and maybe we all think that we are in a difficult situation. But how we react to the situations makes us all different.

It has always been difficult for everyone. It was never  easy.

Yet some of us don’t notice that the glass is half empty but they are busy noticing that the glass is half-full.